Fortunately, life does not admit static or permanent, and this capacity for transformation is what makes it possible for us to achieve our dreams and obtain all those moments of fleeting happiness. But everything changing has its negative side when it affects those people we love and who we would like to accompany us on the road for the rest of our lives. It’s not possible; many people we love get off at the previous stop and we have to continue alone.
Miss
- The reasons why you can miss a person are so varied that it is difficult to define that feeling of longing. Because missing a friend who has gone to live far away is not the same as missing a deceased relative or an ex-boyfriend. Indeed, there are certain common emotions in all these situations, but the way to overcome the longing is very different.
- The dominant feeling in this missing is lack or loss. An absence that comes to tear because you notice a void that cannot be filled with anything. The person you miss dominates all your thoughts and it is difficult for you to concentrate on your daily tasks, you do not pay attention to those who are by your side and you wallow in that feeling of melancholy.
- It is also common to idealize the person you lack, giving him virtues that you did not see when he was by your side. And that’s why you also blame yourself, for not having known how to make better use of time when you had the opportunity. You blame yourself for everything that was left unsaid and for what was left undone. In any case, you get stuck in the past of that relationship and don’t allow yourself to live your present.
How to overcome homesickness
- Any loss supposes a period of mourning to overcome it. That is clear in the case of the death of a loved one. You assume that you are sad, that you are suffering and that you need time to recover and for the pain of the memory to subside. Because it’s not about stopping missing, but about not hurting so much.
- But when you miss a person due to other circumstances, it is more difficult to recognize that you are sad because you miss that person. If your best friend goes to live abroad, you are happy because she will be able to start a new life. But for you it’s a void that you can’t fill with any of your other friends. It is difficult to understand, as it is also difficult to overcome.
- The case of ex-boyfriends is especially painful because there you not only miss them, but you also know that you should not suffer for the loss and it may, in many cases, be accompanied by feelings of hatred and resentment.
- In any case, you need to overcome all those absences no matter what, because your negative emotions don’t let you be happy. If a change has taken place in your life, in the form of the loss of a person, introduce yourself and voluntarily another change; a new activity that occupies your head and that also allows you to meet different people.