We all have a certain fear of not being what others expect of us, of not being liked, of not being loved. And we are not talking about relationships, but about relationships in general. We talk about that fear of being oneself, just in case we disappoint the expectations of others and our own as well. But wouldn’t it be better to be a real person and show yourself as you are? Discover how to overcome the fear of being yourself.
why are you afraid of yourself?
- Sometimes we create ourselves and we believe a character that has nothing to do with our own reality. Sometimes we find ourselves acting or wearing a mask so that both ourselves and others see us as we want them to see us, something that does not always coincide with our true way of being. Is it worth so much effort?
- If we hide our true way of being, it is for others, yes, but also for ourselves. Because we are afraid of not being perfect, because we do not like to admit our mistakes, because we do not feel comfortable in our own skin when it is clouded with negative emotions, because we want to please, because we want to resemble the archetype that we have created in our minds….
- There are many reasons why we are afraid of being ourselves. Sometimes it is a matter of low self-esteem, other times it is a matter of lack of independence, and other times, it is not supporting the reality of who we are. But it is urgent to love. Love ourselves because only then will we be happy. And you have to love yourself as you are, so it’s time to overcome those fears.
How to overcome the fear of being yourself?
- You may be thinking that it is easy to say it, but not so easy to do. And it is true. Overcoming fears is complicated and even more so when it comes to something so deeply rooted within us. To overcome the fear of being yourself, the first step is to recognize who you are, for which you need an intense introspection exercise, to know yourself well. And then:
- If you already know who you are, it’s time to accept yourself as you are. Surely there are things you want to change, do it, you can. But don’t look for perfection because it doesn’t exist. Accept yourself with your virtues and with your defects.
- Do you accept yourself as you are? Look at yourself in your inner mirror, don’t you like what you see? I’m sure you do, because you have before you an authentic, true person, with his good and bad things about him, but a real person. And really wonderful.
- Now that you’ve done the inner work, it’s time to go outside with the attitude of an independent woman. You can’t be liked by everyone, you know that, right? But there are many people who will love you just the way you are because, you know what? If they don’t want you authentic, if they prefer you with a mask, they don’t really want you. So it’s not worth keeping them in your life.
- You can make mistakes, whether you are yourself or pretending. The key is to recognize those mistakes, learn from them and, if they affect others, ask for forgiveness. Being yourself will cost you less to apologize sincerely.
- Keep in mind that if you live with a mask, the people you attract into your life will also wear it. The more authentic you show yourself, the truer and meaningful relationships you can establish. And that’s what we’re looking for, isn’t it? live for real