We have all been betrayed at some point. A partner with an infidelity or a deceit, a friend with a lie, a family member who has hurt you or a co-worker who has stepped on your effort. And at that moment you lose trust in that person and after that experience it is very difficult for you to trust others. Be careful, because you can’t stay in that spiral of mistrust.
Why do you have a hard time trusting others?
- It happens above all in relationships and then extends to the rest of your social, work and family relationships. Perhaps you are one of those people who understand that trust is the basis of any type of relationship and that a betrayal of that trust is a lack of respect like any other.
- Because of a disappointment in love, because your partner led a double life for a long time, because your friend revealed your secret, because your sister hurt you, because your co-worker stole your ideas… there are many betrayals of trust in our relationships, but that doesn’t mean you should stop trusting.
- Because trust is essential to be happy. Because living in continuous suspicion towards those around you will make you feel empty and sad, without hope, without trust. Because when you have a hard time trusting others, you avoid close ties. Because you can end up isolated and depressed if you don’t trust others.
How to trust others again?
But how can you do to trust others? You don’t have to regain the trust you lost in a specific person, in your boyfriend or in your friend, although there is also the possibility of forgiveness. Your goal is not to let a betrayal poison the rest of your social relationships. And that is achieved step by step.
- Avoid breastplates and don’t make others pay for other people’s mistakes.
- We can assure you that there are honest people in this life. Find them.
- Look at other social circles, how they relate, if there is trust between them.
- Surround yourself with authentic people, because they tend to live their relationships with more sincerity.
- Do little trust tests. Tell a friend something personal and see what she does with that information.
- It is important that in love you do not confuse trust with total dedication. Do not leave your happiness in the hands of your partner.
- Be more independent. Not to not need anyone, but to be stronger if they fail you.
- Don’t be afraid of the feeling of disappointment when someone breaks your trust. It is natural and you can overcome it like other negative emotions.
- Keep in mind that not trusting others is like not trusting your own life.
- If you increase your self-confidence and feel strong and secure, you will also be able to trust others.
- And you, do you find it difficult to trust others?