If you are thinking of becoming independent, we congratulate you. That means you have a decent paying job, you’ve matured enough, and you want to fly out of the family nest. It is a big decision and the best awaits you, but surely your most urgent question is: How to tell my parents that I am going to become independent? Keep reading because we have the keys for your parents to support you.
The advantages of being independent
- No more meals at a set table, no more neglecting household chores, no more finding the fridge full by the work and grace of your mother. But the almost existential questions of where you are going, where you come from, who you are going with or what time are these to arrive are also over. Welcome to your new life as an independent woman.
- You are of an age and it is time to make your own life. Maybe your parents expected you to get married or at least have a partner to leave home with, but you’ve decided to fly solo and that’s a big decision. A decision that your parents may not understand, because they feel sorry for being alone or because they are afraid of your life alone.
- But you are not afraid. You are excited about your new independent life. You have found an apartment in which you feel good and organizing yourself to get to everything will be a great test of maturity. Stay with that illusion, because it is the first thing that you must transmit to your parents so that everything goes well.
How to tell your parents that you are going to be independent?
- Your parents may not understand you leaving home. “If you don’t lack anything here”, they will tell you. And it is not that you need their approval, but it is always better that they support you to create a fissure in family relationships, right? So let’s be a little tactful when it comes to telling your parents that you are going to become independent.
- Think about them. In their reasons why they may be suspicious of your departure. These reasons are related to themselves because they will be left alone or because their daughter is leaving them, but also to you because they think that things could go wrong for you.
- Thinking of them you will choose a calm and relaxed moment to communicate your decision. Remember that you are not asking, you are communicating, because the decision has been made, but let them know that you count on them.
- You have to have everything very well tied up and very well thinking because they will pepper you with questions. And it’s normal. How are you going to organize your meals, if you go near or far from your work, if it will come to pay the bills and the unforeseen… Let them see that you have everything under control.
- Make it very clear to them that it is not for them that you are leaving home, that it is for yourself. That you’re fine with them, of course they are, but that you need to be independent and have a life for yourself.
- So that they don’t feel alone or suffer that empty nest syndrome, assure them that you will go often. In search of mom’s lentils or simply to share a snack with them. That it is true that you are going to have a new life, but they will continue in it.
- Argue and convince. That at the end of the conversation they are left with the feeling that becoming independent is the best for you and maybe for them too. And count on them.
- Once you’ve told your parents, it’s time to take action. Living alone is complicated but it has countless advantages. So congratulations and… Welcome to independent living!