Criticism does not sit well with anyone, because it means making us aware of an error that we must correct. But we have to know how to fit them and take advantage of them to improve our attitude. In this article we have taught you to criticize without hurting, but we also want to teach you to take it well when you are the one who receives it.
Obviously, if the criticism is made by someone who does not know how to make constructive criticism, it is difficult for you not to take it the wrong way.. Destructive criticism automatically becomes an insult, which is why no one can or should accept it. But it is not necessary to enter into controversy if you receive criticism of this type. The person who is criticizing you loses his reason if he doesn’t do it in the right ways, so all you have to do is move on from that ‘criticism-insult’.
Do not enter the game, in this case you do not have to “know how to fit in” anything, just love yourself enough to prevent anyone from undermining your self-esteem. If you consider that the criticism begins to be impertinent and turns into belittlement, do not hesitate to cut the conversation short, but do it in a correct and respectful way, do not put yourself at their level, do not return the insult.
Tips to know how to carry out a constructive criticism
- Now, if the criticism is constructive, the first thing you have to think about is that the person who is making it to you only wants to help you, only seeks your good. Therefore, you have to arm yourself with patience and listen to what he has to say.
In this case, do not get defensive, do not lose your temper, let the other person finish speaking so that peace of mind reigns and at the same time you can assume their words. - Everyone can learn from everyone, believe it or not, the young from the old and the old from the young. Well-placed criticism can help you mature, remember that.
- The next step is to reflect deeply, sleep on it, taking all the time you need.
- You may discover that the person who has criticized you has no reason, but that is not what you should think from the first moment, even if it is your first reaction. If after reflection, you realize that you were criticized with all the reason in the world, it is time to act. Make self-criticism and correct your attitude. But don’t martyr yourself. Always remember this universal truth: everyone, absolutely everyone, can make mistakes.
- In order to take criticism well, you have to be humble and aware of your mistakes, be able to realize that you are human and that every human being is imperfect. That imperfection is precisely what makes the human being so interesting. You cannot claim perfection, and no one can demand perfection from you, because perfection does not exist.