The greatest test of a person’s overcoming is facing the death of a loved one. The most painful moment for the loss of the person we love and who will never be by our side again. The pain caused by the death of a person becomes unbearable and there are moments when it seems impossible to move on. However, a death can and should be overcome, but for this we must give ourselves time.
Assume the duel
- Not all people deal with the death of a loved one in the same way. Some manage to get over it with the passage of time, others get stuck in suffering and never get over it. But many others adopt from the beginning an attitude of denial in the face of the tragedy that can cause them serious emotional problems.
- Because if the loss of a loved one is characterized by something, it is the pain it produces. And we have to let that pain flow if we don’t want to get caught up in anguish and confusion. Therefore, although each person is different, they all have to go through a period of mourning.
- A duel that begins with the impact of the news, generating confusion, anguish and obsession, to settle later in the form of awareness of death, despair, frustration and impotence. With the passage of time and, at all times, immersed in confused feelings, we accept the fact that that person is no longer by our side and we begin to be aware that we will have to do something to resume our lives and move forward.
Get over the pain
- But all these phases of mourning do not occur in the same intensity or in the same way in all people. There are many who need psychological help to accept the loss, overcome the pain and rebuild their lives, because the storm of emotions caused by the death of a loved one is uncontrollable.
- The real obstacle to overcoming a death is that all our thoughts are invaded by the memory of the person we love and we ourselves go into the background. You have to be aware that you have to let the pain out, mainly through crying, and you have to keep in mind that we are going to need time.
- Therefore, it is not convenient either to force our recovery, showing ourselves strong and animated before time, because it would be an unrealistic mood that can bring us consequences. It is important to recognize the pain and ask for help to overcome it, but it is especially important to remove all feelings of guilt for the death of the loved one and avoid falling into the thought that we do not deserve to be happy because that person is no longer there.