Your parents have given your life, they have raised you, they have educated you and they have given you everything they could so that you would have a better life than theirs. However, these parental efforts do not always end in gratitude due to the pressures and family tensions that bad communication can generate. And it is that many times, the father’s love is not as evident as you would like and you do not understand his hostile attitude towards your way of life. Given the imminent arrival of Father’s Day, we look for the best way to relax tensions and get along with your father.
Father’s love
- No relationship follows the paths that we would like, because we cannot control or manage the emotions of others. In relationships between parents and children, as many problems can arise due to a lack of understanding as in relationships as a couple and, although love and the indissoluble bond between parents and children are always assumed, reproach and parental criticism can end this relationship. father and son.
- Because the father is always in a position of superiority over his children, communication can become difficult, due to the father’s refusal to admit that he is making a mistake. Backed by the conviction that he knows what is best for his children, he often refuses to establish a dialogue that leads to improving the relationship.
- From the outset we can ensure that without a predisposition to dialogue on the part of your father, the task of avoiding arguments and conflicts will fall on you and on your ability to ignore the harm that his comments can do to you. If you see that the war between you and your father is continuous, it is best to distance yourself and that contact is not daily.
Get along with your father
- Of course, we also find the figure of the tolerant and understanding father who willingly accepts everything his children do, but in general, parents insist that their children achieve all those goals that they did not achieve. And when the children show little interest in continuing the father’s dreams, the reproaches begin. It is necessary to be very clear that this paternal criticism also comes from an excess of protection; They have protected us since we were children and no matter how much we become adults we will always be their vulnerable offspring.
- You will have to strengthen yourself psychologically to face a bad relationship with your father and, as far as possible, try to solve it. Make him see that you are happy with the way you do things, and that no matter how many times you fall, you will be able to get up by learning from your mistakes. Your father has to understand that at some point you have to start walking alone and that doesn’t stop you from counting on him and his support.
- If you make your father feel like a key person in your life despite your maturity, he will surely adopt a closer and more understanding attitude towards you. And if you show him interest in his life, in his hobbies and try to share some of your leisure time with him, he will begin to understand that even if you are an independent person, you still need the love of your parents.