The first premise to get others to respect you is that you do it with yourself. But first of all, it would be necessary to clarify what respect means. Respect is appreciation, recognition and positive assessment towards another person, a concept closely related to self-esteem and the confidence that the person has in himself.
Respect is essential to achieve a good coexistence in society, because it is closely linked to human rights, freedom of expression and acceptance of one’s own body without buts.
Respect must be something reciprocal and mutual: from you to another person, and vice versa, because otherwise it is impossible. It doesn’t mean that you can’t be against someone’s opinions, but that you don’t despise that person because their way of thinking doesn’t agree with yours. This is something that we must try to internalize within ourselves since we are little, because only then will we be able to be tolerant adults. Respect is a value that must be learned.
How to learn to respect yourself
Respect, tolerance, attention, courtesy or admiration. All of them are values that we must cultivate in order to be strong people, self-confident and with great self-esteem. How to get it? It is possible, although like everything, it requires a slow process. How about you start today?
Love yourself
What relationship do you have with yourself? What is your opinion about your person? Do you like him? do you like yourself Look in the mirror and ask yourself all these questions. It’s not about becoming self-centered, thinking that you are the king and that you and only you are the best at everything. It’s a matter of accepting yourself, loving yourself and liking each other. Only in this way will you be able to avoid having low self-esteem and show yourself confident in front of others.
Examine your language
What kind of expressions do you use? What is the tone you use? If when you’re wrong, all you do is blame yourself for your actions and hurt yourself, you’re doing yourself a disservice. Acknowledge the mistakes, learn from them and put the remedies so that it does not happen again or correct or correct what you have done, but do not hurt yourself more with it. Don’t kill yourself!
Apologize if necessary
One way to learn to respect yourself is by acknowledging those moments when we can be wrong and, if necessary, ask for forgiveness. Not only will you be happier with yourself, but others will be impressed with your reaction.
Remove toxic people from your life
Surely you do everything on your part to earn the respect of others, but it is a job that does not only depend on you. Your environment will also influence, for better or worse, this process. Examine your group of friends and try to detect those toxic people, those who are not happy about your achievements, but rather seek to trap you in their circle of negative people.
Develop your assertiveness
Assertiveness is the ability to express ourselves effectively, without being aggressive or trying to harm anyone, in short, doing it with respect and being tolerant of third-party comments. If we do not act assertively, what can happen is that one shows a violent attitude towards society or is too passive and complacent. Do you think that this is how they get the respect they are begging for so much?
7 tricks to get others to respect you
What to do when we are disrespected? How to react to this type of unacceptable behavior?
Show yourself confident and sign
You are who you are, with your virtues and with your defects, and you cannot allow anyone to change you. For example, imagine that you have just met a very handsome, charming, cultured boy… He has everything you have always asked for! The first months of the relationship go from strength to strength, but as time goes by you begin to notice some details in him that throw you off balance. He tries to make strange movements, such as not wearing a type of clothing that, according to him, makes you look too sexy in front of other men, or whenever you are in a group, he rebuts everything you say and underestimates you. No! If he really loves you, he must respect and accept you as you are. Otherwise, if he doesn’t, tell him bye-bye.
You don’t want to please everyone
Throughout your life, you will come across all kinds of people. With some, a brutal chemistry will be created and a spontaneous but very strong relationship will be established, while with others certain barriers or walls will stand in the way that will prevent progress towards something more solid. It’s okay, it’s life itself! As much as you want, you will never be able to get along with everyone. Not even if you insist and do everything impossible, even lower yourself (here then you are not making yourself respected or valued), you cannot please everyone. The sooner you assume and internalize it, the sooner you will start to respect yourself.
Set limits
Many times by trying not to provoke a conflict, we bow down to the requests of a third party. Change! You can’t let them “get on your hump”, you can’t accept everything because you don’t want to as long as no one gets angry. Learning to say no is a way for others to start respecting you and taking you seriously. Your new attitude may take them by surprise, because until now you always said yes to everything, but soon they will assume that you are changing (for the better).
Defend yourself
Don’t let anyone attack you. Your opinion is as valid as anyone’s. No one has the right to trample it or throw it to the ground! If in a conversation you notice that someone tries to belittle you or make you empty, assert yourself and use all your weapons to defend yourself, yes, always with respect: without shouting and using language without aggression.
Demands
Ask them to count on you, demand that they value your opinion and demand recognition of your merits and your actions. You cannot be aware of others all the time and leaving your life for the rest without them returning the gesture. If you start to notice this behavior not changing, stay away from these people! They don’t deserve you.