No one doubts the power of emotional intelligence to be happy anymore. And it is true that it can be developed throughout life, but what better guarantee than a good emotional education from childhood? Children who grow up in a family with emotional intelligence are happier children and happier adults as well. We cannot deny them a tool like that. We tell you why emotional intelligence applied to the family will make you live better since it is the key to happiness.
What is emotional intelligence for?
- We are rational beings, but also emotional. And emotions begin to develop from the moment we arrive in the world. So why don’t we serve them? Many of the emotional disorders that we suffer as adults, such as anxiety, phobias, or depression, are the product of a mismanagement of emotions and a lack of knowledge that we have about our own feelings.
- It is logical. Because from a young age we are taught to read, write and do mathematical calculations. Later they teach us biology, physics, chemistry, history and, the luckiest, even Latin and Greek. Perhaps among that knowledge they include some ethics and philosophy and let’s not forget English. And among so much knowledge, we forget something fundamental: the knowledge of emotions.
Families with emotional intelligence
- More and more families are concerned with providing their children with the emotional baggage necessary for life. Anger, frustration, fear, anguish are natural emotions that you have to learn to manage, not avoid. When a child is told that “boys don’t cry” it is not only a macho question, it is also a danger because they are being taught to avoid an emotion.
- Of course you also have to learn to identify and manage positive emotions. Have you ever met one of those people who never fall in love? An attitude of avoidance or rejection that causes emotional disorders in that person and in all those who approach him. The luck of families with emotional intelligence is that they value that type of intelligence and establish healthier relationships with each other.
Couples in families with emotional intelligence
- Let’s not think of a family without problems, without misunderstandings and with a smile on 24 hours a day. The emotionally intelligent couple has arguments, but they use them to solve problems and not to increase resentment or clean up dirt.
- A couple with emotional intelligence is the best example for their children because they all establish a healthy bond in which communication and empathy prevail above all else. Because it is not only about your own emotions, but also those of others.
Children in families with emotional intelligence
- An overprotective attitude towards children is just as harmful as a neglectful attitude. Children need attention and education because what they learn in that period will depend on their emotional health in the future.
- Overprotecting children so that they do not suffer is not the best way for them to learn to manage their emotions, nor is it to leave them to their own devices when they have had an upset at the park or when they have felt rejected by other children.
- They are not “children’s things”. Emotions are things for children and adults, which is why families with emotional intelligence are concerned with explaining to children the importance of not avoiding negative or positive emotions, that they learn to identify and work with them. The goal: happier children able to relate to other children in a healthier way.