We all like gifts. And not only receive them, but also make them, right? After all, it is a sign of affection, a very clear sign that that person was thinking of you when he bought the gift. It may seem that there is nothing negative when we talk about a gift, since it is a happy moment for both parties, but what happens when giving and receiving gifts becomes an obsession? Doromania is as serious a disorder as any other mania.
What is doromania
- We already know the word mania and that is why we know that in addition to being a particular and eccentric act, it can also be quite a disorder. For its part, the word doro in Greek means “gift” or “gift”, so through etymology you can get an idea of what doromania means.
- But you may not be able to get as much idea of the true meaning of doromania or of everything that this disorder implies. Because it is true that we all like gifts, that it is not only about the excitement prior to opening the packaging, but also about the immense happiness when you go to a store looking for something special for a special person.
- Most of us like to give gifts and the sad thing is that we can’t do them whenever we want. Logically there are limits that in this case are rather economical, because the truth is that any day is a good day to make a gift. However, people with doromania are not stopped by anything, they give gifts in an excessive way that exceeds all their possibilities.
Causes and consequences of doromania
- The causes of doromania are not well understood. Where does the need to give gifts to everyone, every day, come from? Undoubtedly it is a mechanism similar to that of oniomania or addiction to shopping. You see an object, you think of a person, you immediately relate them and deep in your heart you know that both object and person must be together.
- The basis of doromania can be a sincere feeling of affection towards some people, but more frequently it is about certain lacks and the need for acceptance. How can that person not accept you with so many gifts that you give him? Attention to self esteem because although self-esteem problems do not have to be the cause of this obsession with gifts, it is one of the factors that favor its development.
- More evident than the causes of doromania are the consequences. And the main one is the economic disaster of the person who suffers from this disorder, who can become bankrupt. Red numbers, loans and cheating relatives in matters of money are common in the day-to-day life of a person with doromania.
Treatment of doromania
- But like any hobby, the obsession with gifts can be overcome. As this is a fairly accepted custom, it takes a while to discover that a person has a disorder of this type. It usually doesn’t happen until the accounts are reviewed and it is discovered that he is giving gifts far beyond his means.
- By then, that person has already entered into a dynamic of anxiety that only finds some relief when they give one more gift. Psychological help is essential, although in some cases pharmacological treatment may also be needed.
- And we do not know the therapy that the professional chooses from these lines that are only indicative. But in any case, you should focus on the treatment of the high anxiety that any manic disorder generates and, in this specific case of doromania, you will have to make interventions to improve self-esteem and learn other types of social skills.