Criticizing causes unhappiness: are you going to hurt yourself and others?

It seems that people who tend to criticize others or judge them negatively live more unhappily than those who see the positive things in people. So says at least one study from Wake Forest University, USA. In this way, we find one more obstacle on the way to our happiness, a behavior that we must avoid if we want to be happier. But the first step is always to look at yourself, because criticism is ingrained in our lives more than we think. Remember the saying “see the speck in the other’s eye and not see the beam in your own” because that is the basis of harmful criticism.

Difference Between Harmful Criticism and Gossip

1. We all know people who are especially critical or gossipy, but it is convenient to distinguish between this destructive criticism and gossip or gossip. Because gossiping, contrary to what is thought, is not bad; Being interested in the life of others does not always mean that you judge other people, which is the danger of a gossipy person. There is nothing wrong with wanting to know how others live because it is other people that enrich us as people.
2. If you are thinking of all those gossip programs that proliferate on television, you will be able to clearly see the difference between taking an interest in the life of the famous, which is nothing more than curious gossip, and criticizing the character, which occurs when judgments are passed Negative about the behavior of the famous. Therefore, it is not the art of marujeo that we have to avoid in order to feel better and be happier, but what that behavior implies as harmful criticism.
3. It is not the same to tell the rest of the group about your friend Rosa’s nocturnal adventures, then to qualify her in some way for those adventures. It is not about not being interested in the lives of others, but about not judging them for having a different and, in many cases, incomprehensible behavior. Because “taste is in variety” and diversity is one of the most enriching aspects of society. But to get the most out of that diversity, you need to include tolerance in your life.

The harm of criticizing

• We must also take into account the enormous damage that critical behavior can have for both parties. The person who is the object of cruel criticism may have problems in their social relationships and in her work if that criticism slips into the minds of those close to him. But criticizing is also bad for the person who practices it, because she is considered not only indiscreet, but also dangerous, and her friends and colleagues will tend to avoid her, knowing that next time they may be the center of her criticism.
• Whenever we talk about positive thinking, we do it as a learning path towards healthier attitudes for ourselves, and this criticism is clearly seen. If what others do seem wrong to you, if you think that you would do it better or that your way of doing things is correct, be careful because dissatisfaction and unhappiness will be your companions.
• On the contrary, if you manage to look favorably on others, if you are capable of not judging errors and if you manage to be that person who helps find solutions to repair the error by practicing what is known as constructive criticism, you will be closer to get that positive attitude that you need so much to be happier.