The plans of your life, like those of most people, are marked out from childhood. There is a kind of vital road map that we are following without stopping to think if this is really the path we want to take. And the day we think about it is when the crisis arrives. The vital or existential crisis asking you about the meaning of life, but also that crisis that occurs with the change of decade. Because there are crises at 30, 40, 50… Crises can occur at any age. If you’re wondering how to combat the mid-30s crisis without dying trying, keep reading.
Why does the mid-30s crisis occur?
- In order to overcome any crisis, you must first understand what is happening. When you turn 30 or 31 or 32 it is normal for you to do a general review of what your life is and what it should be. Is this what you expected? Is this what other expected of you?
- You’re supposed to achieve success or at least a stable life before you’re 35. So it is written by society. In your thirties you have to have finished your studies, find a stable job (a good job), have a preferably happy partner, think about buying a house or an apartment (according to possibilities), have a car and, don’t forget, that you also have to think about having children… That you already have an age!
- Whether you have managed to follow this plan drawn up by society or if you have not, the crisis of 30 can appear. It appears because of the pressure to follow the stereotypes and it appears because of the pressure of not following them. So let’s relax for a moment to see how we can overcome this vital crisis that may be the first, but surely it will not be the last.
How to combat the crisis of the 30?
- With the youth that is still in their thirties, it will not be too difficult for you to overcome this crisis. You just have to review some vital approaches and look at life from another perspective.
- Reviewing your life so far is positive, but try to put more emphasis on what you have achieved than on what you still have to achieve. Focus not on material or professional achievements, but on those other achievements that speak of your happy moments, your friends, your family, yourself, which are the true treasures you possess in life.
- Do you have your priorities clear? The priority in life is yourself, and if you have already turned 30 it is time to realize it. At this age you can start a real revolution in your life and reorganize priorities. Make sure it’s about your priorities, not the expectations of others.
- Life is not a path of roses and it is very likely that at 30 you have not achieved anything that you were supposed to have at this point. If you have not reached those goals set by society, it is because either you did not really want those goals or because your time has not come. And?
- 30 years. You have your whole life ahead of you. And you may have to start from scratch at some point, so take special care to improve your self-esteem, to be more sure of yourself and to believe in yourself. That will give you the independence you need to avoid having a complex if you have not achieved those vital goals set by others.
- The independence. It is true that you are old enough, but not necessarily to settle down in the traditional way. You are old enough to take responsibility for your own life. And let us insist on YOUR own life, the one you want, the one you live, the one you enjoy, not that of others.
- Lastly, let us reflect on how to forget about the dreaded midlife crisis: life offers you a thousand different possibilities, you don’t have to follow stereotypes. Find what makes you happy and what makes you feel alive, and do it at any age.