Are you at peace with yourself? How to know? What really is peace of mind? Mental or psychological peace can be defined as that state of inner calm and tranquility that we access when we learn to connect with the current moment. 
In a way, it is the feeling that you are where you have to be, at the moment you have to be. It can also be translated as psychological well-being and there are some signs that allow us to recognize this state of fullness. What are the signs that you are at peace with yourself? In this article we talk about 9 of them!
The signs that you have peace and psychological tranquility
Do you feel safe with your decisions?
One of the main signs that you are at peace with yourself is that, in general, you feel confident with the decisions you make. You can be wrong or not, be nervous or not, feel uncertain… but in the end, you decide firmly and defend what you believe in. And this is also (generator of) peace of mind.
You like you
- Peace of mind also has to do with how we feel about ourselves; that is, with our self-esteem. People with peace of mind tend to have good self-esteem. Thus, they feel good about what they do and how they do it, and they also like themselves.
- Eye! As in all the points that we will discuss, you can go through “low” moments or not “fulfill” the point in question and that is not an indicator that you are not at peace with yourself. We always speak generically; In this case, peace of mind exists in people who, in general, treat each other well and love each other.
- “Accept yourself, love yourself and move on. If you want to fly, you must give up what weighs you down. – Roy T. Bennett –
You don’t feel remorse or guilt
Remorse or guilt are two types of feelings that make us not feel at peace with ourselves. Therefore, one of the signs that you are at peace with yourself is that you do not feel remorse for something you did not do well, nor guilt for having hurt someone (or for other reasons).
Logically, you can have specific moments of guilt or remorse, but if they are transient and brief, if you are able to forgive and accept yourself, peace is in you.
Do not stay installed in the “what if …”
- Sometimes it happens to us, in certain situations, that we get stuck in the “what if…”. And from there we feel guilty, we feel that the situation was not resolved well or we feel that we have ” a thorn in our throat “.
- However, another of the signs that you are at peace with yourself is precisely this: the absence of these types of sensations. Obviously, we all ask ourselves at some point “what would have happened if…” (for example, if he had done things differently).
- It is normal for our mind to wander, to imagine different scenarios… But that is one thing (which is compatible with feeling at peace) and the other is to remain anchored to that moment, as something that was not resolved well within us.
- We recommend you read: ” 29 beautiful phrases about the present to learn to live in the moment “
You enjoy well-being
Peace with oneself translates into well-being, both physical and (and above all) mental well-being. Thus, we experience this well-being when we are at peace and it manifests itself through: feeling that we have energy, enthusiasm, the desire to do things…
The experimentation of well-being is something very personal, although broadly speaking, it is about a feeling of peace and fullness, of happiness and tranquility.
You live in the present
- Seems like a no-brainer, right? But the truth is that many people “live” more in the past or in the future than in the present. But people at peace with themselves live more in the present than in the past or the future.
- This awareness of their present allows them to experience it more fully. Mindfulness, for example, encompasses very effective techniques to connect with the present moment and let thoughts of the past and future (anticipatory thoughts) flow without being dragged into them.
- “Breathe. Let it go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know for sure.”
- -Oprah-
- Remember: peace of mind is closely linked to living connected to the present. In fact, it is said that happiness is found at this intermediate point between the past (where people with depression “live”, for example) and the future (typical for people with anxiety).
- In your present is your reality and your life and it is surely the best place to stay if you want to enjoy good mental health, with the peace that comes with enjoying what is happening at the present moment.
- When you make friends with the present moment you feel at home wherever you are. If you are not comfortable in the now, you will be uncomfortable wherever you go.
- -Eckhart Tolle-
You feel that you should not meet other people’s expectations
Expectations are preconceived ideas related to everything we expect from certain situations, people, from oneself… And there are our own expectations and those of others. When we feel free, we are able to stop complying with what others expect of us. And that brings peace of mind.
Therefore, another of the signs that you are at peace with yourself is precisely this release from other people’s expectations; You are very clear that you have to do what you expect of yourself, what you want.
And not looking for the expectations of others has nothing to do with disrespecting them, or with being selfish, with misbehaving with them… It has to do with respecting what you are and want.
- You may be interested: ” Need for approval: the price of wanting to please (always) everyone “
Do you feel that you are not indebted to anyone?
We are talking here about being in debt on a psychological or behavioral level, not on an economic level. When we are at peace, we feel that we owe nothing to anyone; This is a matter closely related to the previous point.
We feel, therefore, that we should not resolve pending issues with anyone. Because? Because we have already closed all the stages of our past and we are connected to the here and now (as we can see, these are also related previous points).
You don’t feel anxiety
Anxiety is an enemy of peace of mind. In fact, they are antagonistic; when we suffer from anxiety we are not at peace, quite the opposite. We are tense, nervous, agitated…
Therefore, another sign that indicates that you are at peace is the absence of anxiety. We are talking above all about chronic states of anxiety, or anxiety disorders, and not so much about suffering from anxiety at specific moments.
A little tip: to combat anxiety, relaxation techniques, deep breathing and mindfulness are often useful (also ideal for connecting with the present moment).
Mental and physical health: the keys to feeling at peace
- Surely, if you are at peace, you already knew some of the signs that you are at peace with yourself. In fact, when we are at peace, we are fine, and we know it. We feel it in the body and in the mind.
- Remember that being at peace is related to mental health but also physical. For this reason, it is so important to maintain healthy lifestyle habits such as: regular sleep routines, balanced diet, regular sports practice, reduction or elimination of toxic substances in our lives (and also toxic people!), etc.
- Therefore, if you want to enjoy this peace of mind, we encourage you to take care of yourself on a psychological level (sometimes psychological therapy can help) but also on a physical level.