We continually make decisions, even if we don’t realize it. It is also true that there are people who prefer to live on automatic pilot and let themselves go, but that, after all, is also a decision. The most common question is: am I making the right decision? Because it is true that when you choose something, you discard other things. What if I’m wrong? We clear your doubts and help you decide.
Doubt if you are making the right decision
To begin with, you should try to think differently. There are no right decisions and wrong decisions because the moment you make a decision you are doing the right thing. Now, that decision may seem like a mistake over time or that decision may have had negative consequences for you. That doesn’t make it a wrong decision, especially if you extract the implicit learning in every negative circumstance.
But let’s not get philosophical and let’s get to practice. Go back to school, buy that house, leave your partner, take the step of getting married, change jobs, live in another city… how do you make those important decisions that can determine the course of your life?
Let yourself be carried away by intuition
Sometimes we complicate our lives ourselves due to the amount of external elements that we value when making decisions. The material aspect, the opinion of others, social conventions or the need not to disappoint the expectations of others make us go down paths that we really do not want.
But in reality, most decisions could be made more easily by looking within. What they call intuition and that we often numb with reason is a more powerful tool than we imagine to make the right decision.
Heads and tails
We also tend to polarize in decisions and reduce the alternatives to two options: the right decision and the wrong decision. We are so used to seeing everything in black and white, positive and negative, that we forget about the full range of colors that are in the way.
There may be more than heads and tails, there may be more than two options. Spend some time reflecting on the decision you are going to make and you will see the number of alternatives that are open to you. Choose, you’re going to have to choose one, but that option will lead you to many other options.
Don’t look for the perfect decision
You don’t have to be obsessed with making the perfect decision, because it doesn’t exist. Just as we are not perfect and what really matters are that we are brave, the same thing happens with decisions. Make a brave decision and, even if it brings you negative consequences, it will be the right decision.
Because what counts is taking it. Only rarely is not making a decision the best decision. Being inactive, not taking sides, and letting life decide for you is usually a bad investment. Activate, move, change, decide, that always.
Questions to make decisions
The doubts are logical and most will not be resolved until you make the decision. But there are some questions that can help you say. Think in minutes, days, months and years. How will you feel 10 minutes after making that decision? But don’t stay there and keep asking yourself.
How will this decision affect you in 10 days? And in 10 months? You can go further, how important will this decision be for you in 10 years? Expanding the temporal spectrum will help you relativize in decision-making.